Hey Gorgeous Soul!
Of course I was in the shower tonight, when this blog post idea came to me. Something told me that there’s SOMEONE in your life right now, bugging the living shit out of you. You just can’t stand them. They make you want to take a fork to the eyeball. They make you think irrational thoughts and want to do irrational things.
We’ve all been there. It’s part of being human!
One of the common issues that I constantly help my clients with is figuring out how to deal with shitty people. Why these shitty people even appear on our paths when we seriously have enough going on, is always a big mystery at first.
Over the last few years, this has become one of my greatest lessons to learn. I experienced a major perspective shift about this topic, and I think it totally calls for a blog post.
Here are two things that will blow your mind:
- The person that is irritating you is actually you. (You’re probably thinking wtf?!)
- Repeating shitty people in your life is a lesson you haven’t yet mastered-which is why you come across them time and time again.
Let’s break down each one real quick.
So what the heck do I mean when I say that the person irritating you is actually you? Well, simply put, if you’ve been attracted to my website, you have some sort of basic idea of how the vibrations you put out into the Universe are what you perceive in your current reality. When we are around a person who irritates us, drives us crazy, and there’s just something we don’t like about that person, we are actually looking into a mirror. Straight up reflection.
Usually, it’s the qualities that we deeply dislike about others that are actually qualities that we dislike about ourselves. We are just way too close to ourselves to notice this, but if you really take a step back and realize that the reason why you can’t stand your co-worker is because she’s loud and obnoxious is actually because you may be insecure with your own wild side. You may have been told to shush as a kid over and over again, and have come to resent loud people. Therefore, your loud ass coworker irritates you. Maybe you wish you could be so comfortable with your loud voice?
This awareness is so important because once you realize that people are just reflecting yourself back to you, you can quickly figure out where you’re lacking personal development. You can easily pinpoint what to work on and where to grow, and we, manifestation babes, all know that once we can pinpoint what to focus on, the good shit expands. Am I right?
The other upside to this is that when you’re really attracted to a certain quality of someone, that is actually another mirror that you’re looking at. It means that you have that quality within you, and you love that quality about yourself. For instance, you may love that a certain friend is positive, uplifting, and sincere to everyone who comes across her path. This just means that you have that quality within you as well, and are aware of it at least on a subconscious level. And if you aren’t aware of it, it could be a place for you to work on as well. Work on bringing out more of that quality that lies deep within you.
As for repeating shitty people, this is super simple to address. People come into our lives as universal lessons. We have certain relationships with certain people that have all been divinely planned. No relationship (good or bad) happens by accident. Each relationship comes jam packed with a lesson to learn. Once we master the lesson, we move onto new people, or we move onto the next lesson with the same person. If you find that you constantly come across people who treat you like shit, cheat on you, disrespect you, or just plain bug you… it means you have yet to learn the lesson. The lesson will keep presenting itself until we figure out how to master it.
The universal lesson/assignment can be to learn patience. It can be to learn compassion. Maybe it’s to learn to accept others. You don’t know the lesson until you take a step back and really assess why certain types of people keep repeating in your life. This is another amazing area of growth for you to discover. Once you figure out the lesson, work on it, and master it, the shitty people just simply disappear. We make room for positive relationships.
In my personal experience, one of the lessons that I learned when it came to relationships was to have a backbone. I repeatedly came across people that just simply disrespected me, over and over again. It was so frustrating until I realized that it was because I wasn’t respecting myself! I was allowing people to walk over me. As soon as I became aware of this, I changed my behavior. It doesn’t come as a surprise to me that the majority of people in my life today always treat me with respect. Once again, the vibe you put out there reflects back to you. It’s all about that mirror, babes.
I hope this post gave you some clarity and insight on dealing with difficult people. Did you learn something new about yourself today? Feel free to share away!
I believe in you
Have a great day!
To Your Massive Success,
Kathrin Zenkina